I note that the general opinion is to 'carry on' with family history
research even if warned off by the aunties and uncles.
My personal opinion is that you can explore whatever is in the public domain
- GRO records, wills, poll books, old newspapers without feeling guilty.
This means that you can (probably) carry on with your research. My own
criteria is that I do not publish *anywhere* information about *anyone* who
is still remembered by *anyone* who is still alive. That takes me back to
about 1914, which is historically a neat cut off point. My own experience is
that some individuals in the family will actually be very interested once
you have established that you are trustworthy.
The consequence of this policy is that I have to publish my family history
in two tiers - before and after (about) 1914. That actually makes it more
manageable because a history (the only one I've actually finished) of one of
my great-great-grandparents ran to 84 X A4 pages which conveniently related
to a geographical area.
The post-1914 material can go to a library or record office with an embargo
on it which I know will be respected.