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Another possibility to contemplate...
Family plots, not recorded, and long disused.
7 yrs ago I was in NH researching and was blessed to have a young man who was very knowledgeable about the history of and locations of many places of value to my family lines. He took me to a family plot back in the woods below Mt Kearsarge where I found headstones, some standing, most on the ground. Some had been broken, but I was able to fit the pieces together for both photographing and to take a rubbing. As with so many of the older stones, the years have nearly worn them smooth, but I found that taking a rubbing on kraft paper using a large child's crayon gave me a lot better detail than physical examination or photography.
If you have a situation where the extended family all lived close geographically for a number of generations, especially if they are not 'in town', a family plot near one of the original homes may well have been used.
I took a look in the census I did in 1995 of the Maplewood/North Parish
Church cemetery that lies on the Plaistow, NH - Haverhill, MA line. It is
the oldest cemetery associated with inhabitants of Plaistow, and the North
Parish of Haverhill, MA. Unfortunately I don't find any stone for the surname
Cammil or Cammel, or anything close. There are old stones from that period in
that cemetery, but very few. Also, there was a caretaker (abt 50 yrs ago)
that double sold plots and the story goes that he actually went as far as
removing headstones to do so, and then his records mysteriously burned just as he
retired. By the way, when I did the census of the cemetery I found a copy of
a census done of the same cemetery by the Daughters of Founders and Patriots
of America in 1933 - there were only a very few stones that I couldn't find
from then, and are noted in my census.
I am hoping to add this cemetery to rootsweb.com's genweb site for
Rockingham county in the near future (along with the only other 2 cemeteries in
Sorry this isn't what you were hoping for. Plaistow was organized in
1749, so it is still possible that he and his family are buried in one of the
Lastly, I am getting ready to publish the Plaistow vital records and do
not find the death of Alexander/Elexander Cammil. Could you tell me your
source for his death date?
-Mary Ellen Moulton
This was posted to another list by Bill Waterhouse
wm.r.waterhouse(a)mailstation.com and I think there is some
merit to what he has to say.
As I read of the many on this & other lists who have become frustrated by
being unable to find the burial sites of their ancestors,
family members, or others, despite many hours of researching &
walking of cemeteries; I would like to point out another possibility
which few, if any, consider...that being cremation. Cremation is not
a new concept as the disposing of human bodies on a funeral pyre
-usually one body at a time-dates back in America, at least, to
Colonial times. Most of us have read of the; albeit horrific; body
pyres that were utilized, usually after the biggest of the battles of
the Civil War, to dispose of the often thousands of bodies which
accumulated as a result of the fighting. This was done out of
necessity as the digging of individual, or even mass graves, was
out of the question due to lack of manpower. However, the most
compelling reason to dispose of the bodies as quickly as possible
was to prevent the spread of disease which was rampant at the
time. Very few probably realize that of the 250,000-300,000 men
of the Confederate Army who died during the war, only one quarter
of those deaths were incurred in battle, with the remainder dying
of disease. Union Army deaths due to disease were somewhat lesser
due to the availability of more sophisticated medicines & techniques.
Several years after the War the crematory furnace was developed
& many funeral establishments had them installed in their facilities
leading to the wider usage of this method. I recently spent the
better part of a year attempting to find the burial places of an
ancestor, a CW veteran, & his wife who both died in Chicago, with-
out success. A search of the cemeteries in & around Chicago & of
the National Cemeteries yielded no results either. In speaking later
with a member of the branch of the family to which the deceased
belonged, I learned that cremation was literally a tradition in that
branch, & I was told of a scattering of ashes at sea & in various
cemeteries in several states. Thus, after a period of 100 years
have elapsed since the death of these two people, & with not finding
any evidence of cemetery burials, I must 'assume' that even with-
out any proof, that they were cremated. Also with many families
not having the funds to purchase a cemetery plot, a gravestone, &
other costs associated with a funeral, cremation was no doubt a
lower cost alternative. Also, as the ashes are usually placed in an
urn, rather than scattering the ashes, the urns could be kept at
home, where the family members could feel that the deceased was
"always close by." What might have happened to the urns through-
out the ensuing years might well be "Another story."
To those who might feel like they are 'chasing their tail' in attempting
to find where their family member's remains are; this just may be
another consideration to keep in mind.
I was wondering if your kind offer to do a look up for the Plaistow
cemeteries was still available. My 8th great grandfather died in Plaistow in August
1749. Are there even headstones still intact from this time period? If so,
could you please look up Alexander (or Elexander) CAMMIL. (Surname also
Thank you for your generous offer to the list,
Carol Ann (Campbell) Michalski
Manhattan Beach, California
Just an FYI
Information available if you visit the Manchester NH City Library:
- Manchester NH marriages: 1850 to 1947
- Manchester NH deaths: 1850 to 1947
- Manchester NH city directories 1840 to present (typically only shows the name of the head of household, spouse, occupation and residence)
- New Hampshire obituaries: 1863 to present
The marriages, deaths, city directories and church records are all upstairs in the library, in the "New Hampshire Room". The obituaries are on the first floor in the reading room (on microfiche, from the newspaper. NOTE: If you are researching in NH but NOT in Manchester, look at the "State" edition, rather than the "City" edition).
**NOTE: The above information is also available by email request to Helen Coughlin, a (a volunteer who is not affiliated with the library). Provide her with as many details as possible in the email (i.e. date or partial date, location, alternate names). Helen does this free of charge, please remember to thank her!
Her email address is: Imsewinggram(a)aol.com
Since you do not know the date of death, I suggest you ask her to look up the actual death first, and if a death date is obtained, she will probably look for the obituary in the newspaper file for you.
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I am trying to verify the dates of the deaths of my great grandfather and
great grandmother who moved to Manchester, NH from Quebec, Canada. Their names
were Jeremiah Boucher - after naturalization the last name became Bushey -
and Rose Delima. Rose died a couple of years after my grandmother was born
which was 1886. Their names are on the census for 1880 - his for 1890. I find
Jeremiah Bushey listed in the Manchester directory for 1892 and 1893 as
having one house at 972 Elm Street and one (1892) at 369 Amherst and another
(1893) at 13 Barr, W.M. However, I can find so information on the internet as to
the dates of either of their deaths and there is no one living who can tell
Any directions you can give me in obtaining this information will be
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