The following post is reprinted with permission from Ron:
----- Original Message -----
From: "Ron Eason" <rkeason(a)directvinternet.com>
To: <NCGENWEB-DISCUSS-L(a)rootsweb.com>
Sent: Sunday, August 18, 2002 9:20 AM
Subject: Complainer/Banned/whatever thread
List Brothers and Sisters,
I was watching a "Religeous" program on tv this morning and
Maria Shriver was a guest. She told the host that her mother
used to tell her and her siblings that they were free to argue
with each other but they were not permitted to stay mad at each
other. That they were to, "work it out". And when they had
"worked it out", to come back and tell her.
What an excellent model!
There is much of this past thread, and many others, that
have had no place on this list or any other. It is stuff that should
have been taken private and when worked out, the results could
have, or not, been given to the rest of the members.
I have had no problem with most of Daryl's positions he has
taken on certain things and I know that it is very hard to make others
understand without informing them of all the details surrounding a
situation. But the fact will always remain that there are plenty of
members who just don't want to know.
Daryl has offered a great alternative opportunity for web hosting of
USGW pages. I don't find any problem with his offer, just as most
don't find a problem with Rootsweb or USGenNet or the countless
others who provide web space. He has an opinion, just like everyone
else and he is entitled to it. It is apparent that he is now a qualified
County Coordinator of the USGW Project and he deserves to be
treated with no less dignity or respect.
However it is obvious that he has a strong opinion about things and
he will have to learn that although he has a right to his opinion, there
are others who also have a right to theirs which includes not to have
to hear. I know this is a hard concept for some, but if everyone will
be just remotely sensitive to the rights of others, it is possible that we
can all work together and yet still disagree. And this is not exclusive
to Daryl and not my intent to single him out.
There is a time and a place for everything and if everyone will
think twice about what they are about to send and ask themselves if
they truly believe whether everyone will enjoy or benefit from hearing
what they have to say, them maybe they will reconsider what, or to
whom, they are about to send something and it will preserve the peace
of this and other lists. Not everything needs to be broadcast to all
others. Maybe if we could institute a policy of asking others on a list
if they want to know and if the majority say no, then those that do want
to hear or know, can be included in a private post and everyone will
be happy.
I am not the list Admin for this list, but I think that there are plenty
of
members who would agree that they would prefer that personal
indifferences
and sparing could and should be taken private so as to spare the rest
from having to wade through the bog of disrespect.
Thanks for all who understand and comply.
Ron