AMEN to Richard Carr's comments just now in his email. YES! Record their
memories and share them and photos with other family members. Just now
completing life history of an 84 year old who is losing his memory. Been
working on this history for 5 years. Just found a distant relative who
just happened to have a photo taken in 1987 of the 3 sisters. (brother
deceased) The one sister was given away at birth. What a FIND to have
this photo!!! And wonder of wonders - it is labeled. Even better!
Love the poem The Dash - that so aptly applies to Debbie and her father
- and all of us. Author Linda Ellis copyrighted her poem in 1996 and
asks that we not reprint it - but use the link to read it and the Live
Our Dash. Well worth the click on the link. Enjoy!
http://www.linda-ellis.com/the-dash-the-dash-poem-by-linda-ellis-.html
*The Dash*
by Linda Ellis copyright 1996
I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
from the beginning…to the end.
He noted that first came the date of birth
and spoke the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
that they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
to consider what’s true and real
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read,
with your life’s actions to rehash…
would you be proud of the things they say
about how you spent YOUR dash?
*The Dash*
by Linda Ellis copyright 1996
I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
from the beginning…to the end.
He noted that first came the date of birth
and spoke the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
that they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
to consider what’s true and real
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read,
with your life’s actions to rehash…
would you be proud of the things they say
about how you spent YOUR dash?
On 5/19/2016 9:59 AM, Dick Carr via wrote:
Debbie:
Our heart is with you and your family.
Perhaps; however, I could use this horrific time to emphasis one point. As we seek our
genealogical history, many are overly interested in the dates names, etc., of our
ancestors. While this is critical information, so is the what, where, why and when of our
ancestors lives. What did they do, why did they do it. What events surrounded them in
the communities where they resided.
I failed to adequately tape record my grandfather's thoughts and reminiscences in his
last years. I strongly regret that I thought there would always be time for that. I was
wrong and I urge that all of us who have an interest in the history of our respective
families, tape record and then put into print, the recollections of our ancestors. One
day it will be too late.
Once again my condolences to you and yours.
Richard Carr
-----Original Message-----
From: inowen-bounces(a)rootsweb.com [mailto:inowen-bounces@rootsweb.com] On Behalf Of Jo
Cluck via
Sent: Thursday, May 19, 2016 8:07 AM
To: Debbie Jennings <debbiejennings53(a)gmail.com>; inowen(a)rootsweb.com
Subject: Re: [INOWEN] Richard Carter
Treasure your memories, as they will sustain you through the grief. Prayers for you and
your loved ones for strength and peace.
Jo Jordan Cluck
Be kinder than is necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
On Wednesday, May 18, 2016 9:28 PM, Debbie Jennings via <inowen(a)rootsweb.com>
wrote:
To any of you that may have worked with or corresponded with my dad,
Richard (dick) Carter in the past...he is again in the hospital and enters
hospice tomorrow. No more curative measures as he is in stage 4 cancer.
Morphine is being given for pain and to ease him out of life. He has chosen
to be DNR and DNI. No life saving measures at all. He has not been coherent
in 2 days. I am with him at St Francis hospital in greenwood indiana and he
moves to nursing home tomorrow. Just thought some of you would want to
know. Will update later.
Debbie jennings
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