What a horrid experience. Under such circumstances I would be inclined to
write to the Bishop and let him know of you distress .The church has lost
its way in things Pastoral and yet is supprised at falling numbers,
On an Ecclesiastical Law point I thing yiu were incorrectly informed.
Your family own the grave and the Head stone if one is there and you could
certainly add to an existing head stone the name and Ashes scattered---as he
would have liked You can also put up a head stone when you like my father
died in 1950 A relative was buried in the same grave in 1901 and my mother
in1995 There was no Headstone and inscription until I did it in 1996 --.
This has happened in my own family recently .
Perhaps you wil lwant to leave things to rest but I hope you will not remain
too sad at the events.
Sue in LLantrisant.
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, September 29, 2004 11:17 PM
Subject: [Dyfed] Responding to letters
A few years ago my father died and I took his ashes back to the village
he had spent his childhood and where his father was buried. The
so overgrown that I could not get to the grave so scattered the ashes in a
local beauty spot of which I had a photograph showing him with his father.
actually met the vicar at the church but was told I could not have any
tablet or commemoration in either the church or churchyard. I felt that
money I would have spent ought to go towards helping the church do
clear the churchyard so sent him a cheque for GBP250. This cheque was
very promptly but, to this day, I have never received any acknowledgement.
I like to think this vicar was an exception but nevertheless I was very
at the time.
Bye for Now
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