The following article originally appeared on the SNOW list and was forwarded
to another list to which I subscribe. It is such a good article that I
wanted to pass it along. I have actually found some of these situations in
my own research. In fact, it is possible that the daughter listed for
Frederick CARLOCK, Jr. (s/o Frederick, David) listed on page 437 of the book
"History of the Carlock Family", by Marion Pomeroy CARLOCK, 1929, may have
actually been a male named David and the ancestor of George CARLOCK/CEARLOCK,
b. ca. 1779, NC, who m. Rachel LANDERS, 11 Oct 1805, Warren Co., KY, and
Catherine CARLOCK, b. NC, who m. James HENDRICKS, 10 Oct 1908, Warren Co.,
Ky. I recently received information from one of the subscribers to this list
which supports this theory.
Sue Tilleman
List Administrator for the BOLDWYN, CARLOCK, and CEARLOCK Rootsweb Mailing
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Date: Mon, 25 Sep 2000 17:11:14 EDT
The below article is posted in the archives on
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Impossible and Improbable by Donna Przecha
Genealogy thrives as a rewarding hobby because most people in the past lived
orderly lives. We expect them to be born, marry, have children and die, and
that there will be someone to record most of these events somewhere. Usually
this is exactly what happens. All we have to do is find out where these
events were recorded. However, occasionally we come across events that just
do not fit into the orderly scheme of things. Sometimes they seem to be
highly improbable or completely impossible.
Disowned Children
In past times marrying outside the family's religion, race, culture or
social
class was considered by some to be taboo. If children violated this
rule,
some families would disown them and even declare them dead. In one case the
parents not only declared the child dead but went so far as to erect a
tombstone with her name and her marriage date as the death date. People who
were mentally ill or physically deformed might be sent off to an asylum or
hospital and the family would act as if they were dead. They might be
recorded in the family Bible as having died, so when you find the individual
in a census you will be thoroughly confused! A daughter might also be
disowned if she became pregnant and was not married or a son cut out of the
family if he ended up in prison. Obituaries were generally provided by the
families, and facts and children who did not suit the image the family
wished
to project could be omitted. If a child was not mentioned in the
obituary in
the local hometown paper, it didn't mean the child didn't exist or was
deceased.
Finding disowned children can be very difficult because they often moved a
long way from their original home to a completely different environment.
Someone from Connecticut might move to Idaho or Texas for no apparent
reason.
With more national indexes becoming available, it is easier to locate
these
people. Since most census indexes are still on a state-by-state basis, you
almost have to check each state as there is no predicting where they might
have gone.
The names of disowned children might turn up in a will or probate. In a will
the parent might want to mention the child just to be sure he or she is cut
out of the inheritance. If there was no will, all living children would need
to be named in legal documents relating to an inheritance.
In past times marrying outside the family's religion, race, culture or
social class was considered by some to be taboo. If children violated this
rule, some families would disown them and even declare them dead.
Bigamy
Even in this day of instant communication with cell phones, pagers and the
Internet, you can still pick up the paper and read about a man who was
married to different women and had two different families, each of which was
unknown to the other. (Why a man would want the responsibilities of two
families and keeping them secret is beyond me!) In the past it was so much
easier to acquire two wives, although it was more often serial rather than
concurrent. If a man from Virginia went to California to look for gold, he
might decide after a couple of fruitless years that he didn't want to go
home
and face the ridicule of his family and neighbors. He might decide to
just
settle down in California, perhaps open a store or take up farming and marry
a girl he met there. Since he may have stopped writing to his family in
Virginia months ago, he would hardly feel it was necessary to go to all the
trouble and agony of trying to get a divorce. He might even send back an
announcement of his death just to close that chapter of his life.
Even in this day of instant communication, you can still pick up the
paper
and read about a man who was married to different women and had two
different
families, each of which was unknown to the other.
When a husband disappears, the wife usually goes through the legal process
to
have him declared dead after a certain period of time. You might
encounter
the family with the husband in one census and in the next find the wife
listed as a widow. This would lead you to believe he died in the meantime
and
you would look for cemetery records, obituaries, wills and death
records. If
he simply disappeared, you will not find any of these and may need to
explore
court records for a legal document declaring him dead. Of course, he
may not
really be dead at all.
Name Changes
Many men, especially new immigrants, found it too overwhelming to try to
support a family and just walked off and were never heard from again. They
might even change their names, settle down in a new area and get married
again. This is very difficult to track and document, but one place where
this
could come out is in military pension records. If a man was in the
Civil
War,
his first wife would know he was entitled to a pension and would apply
for
one when it became obvious he was never coming back, and could be presumed
dead. If he remarried under another name, he might feel enough loyalty to
his
second wife to disclose his military service and the name under which
he
enlisted. Once he died and the second wife applied for her pension, both
applications would end up with the same service record.
If you suspect a possible name change, be sure to consult as many legal or
official documents as possible.
If you suspect a possible name change, be sure to consult as many legal or
official documents as possible, such as pension papers, wills,
naturalization
papers or land deeds. Even if a man changed names he might think he
had to
include his "also known as" (AKA) name to be sure the transaction was valid,
fearing the original name might come out at some point and nullify the
action.
A woman could create genealogical confusion by not changing her name. If a
woman had a child out of wedlock, she might move to another town, keep her
maiden name but call herself Mrs., claiming she was a widow. Even if people
knew she had never married, a mother would be called Mrs. as a courtesy
because it would be embarrassing to all concerned to suggest that an
unmarried woman had a child.
In African-American research, many people assume that a freed slave would
take the family name of the person who had owned him before emancipation. In
fact, the freed slaves could take any name they liked and many experimented
with several names before settling on one. Siblings might choose different
surnames so it is not obvious to a researcher that they are related. A
parent
might have lived on a different plantation and select a different name
from
the child. Many chose names of famous people or people they admired, so the
surname may or may not be significant for the researcher.
Freed slaves could take any name they liked, so the surname may or may
not
be significant for the researcher.
Duplicate Names
Sometimes a researcher looking through baptism records will find a couple
who
gave the same name to two different children. A look at the burials
usually
reveals that the first child with that name died before the second one was
born. In some cases no such death is found. In fact, both children seem to
live, grow up and produce their own records. This can cause the researcher a
bit of confusion and reexamination of the records. For some reason
perhaps a
lack of imagination? parents will give children almost identical
names. In
one family there was a John and a Jonathan, and both lived to adulthood.
Mary
and Maria are also possibilities.
Sometimes, especially in German names, the first name would be the same for
all children of the same sex, but the second name would be different. A
family might consist of Johann Georg, Johann Wilhelm, Johann Josef, Anna
Barbara, Anna Maria and Anna Theresa. Needless to say, the children usually
went by their middle names and the children might be known as Georg, Johann,
Josef, Barbara, Anna and Theresa. In later records, they might reverse the
name since the middle name was the one usually used. This means you almost
have to follow the lives of all the brothers to be sure who was really
Johann. Just to confuse matters, Georg and Josef might use their official
first name, Johann, on a record.
Sometimes, especially in German names, the first name would be the same
for all children of the same sex, but the second name would be different.
Informal Adoptions
Very often in the past, adoptions were very informally arranged. A woman
might have a child that she really couldn't care for, because of health or
financial reasons, while her sister might have wanted a child but was unable
to have one. It might be agreed between the two families that the child
would
be given to the other to raise. No papers were signed or legal
documents
filed. Similarly, a foundling might be taken in by a family and simply
raised
as their own.
Wrong Sex
We have all encountered a person being classified as a male in one census
and
a female in another. This frequently happens with unusual names, or
names
that can be either sex, and usually it is just an error on the part of the
census taker. However, there have been cases where children have been raised
as if they were the opposite sex. Boys were dressed like girls when they
were
small and a mother who wanted a girl and was unable to have any more
children
might well continue that deception until the child revolted. Sex
change
operations were not possible 100 years ago but people could live as if they
were the opposite sex. A woman might be especially tempted to masquerade
as a
man if she wished to be a soldier or a cowboy or follow some equally
masculine occupation. Very recently a well-known band leader died and it was
found that he, even though he was married, was actually a woman and no one
knew.
We have all encountered a person being classified as a male in one census
and a female in another. This is usually just an error on the part of the
census taker, but alternate explanations are sometimes possible.
Race Change
While following a family back through the census you might find a person who
had always been classified as white, listed as mulatto, meaning a mixture of
white and African ancestry. While we know the census taker often made
mistakes, this might mean there is African-American ancestry in that line.
Appearance played a big part in racial designation and when possible, many
people of mixed ancestry would "pass" for white when they could. The
children
of Sally Hemings are a good example. (Whether or not you believe
Thomas
Jefferson was the father, it is generally accepted that the father of the
Hemings children was white.)
Sally herself was 1/4 black, as her father and maternal grandfather were
both
white. Her children were only 1/8 black. They all drifted off, with or
without permission, and settled elsewhere. Eston at first settled in Ohio
and
in 1852 moved to Wisconsin where he changed his name from Hemings to
Jefferson and his race to white. Eston's descendants did not even know of
their black ancestry. Beverly (a son) and Harriet apparently disappeared
into
white society. Thomas became a minister in the African Methodist
church and
Madison stayed in the black community.
Many people, especially in the south, have both white and black ancestry.
Given the conditions and disadvantages under which blacks, even free ones,
had to live, it made sense to be classified as white if at all possible. It
made their lives and the lives of their families much easier.
Many people, especially in the south, have both white and black ancestry.
Given the conditions and disadvantages under which blacks, even free ones,
had to live, many people of mixed ancestry would "pass" for white when they
could.
Facing the Impossible
I would not encourage anyone to look for any of these extreme situations in
his or her own family research, but if the impossible or the improbable
appears, keep an open mind. If you come across one of these situations, this
line may be truncated. Even if you do manage to work around it, it will take
much research and documentation to gather enough evidence to prove what
really happened. However, if you do manage to piece the whole story
together,
it will probably be the highlight of your family history!
Ruth in NC