Daphne Kilbourn-Jacob wrote:
Andrew Caddell wrote:
>
> Daphne:
>
> I certainly hope we do not re-enact the War of 1812, as some of my
> ancestors (not Caddells - they were off in Barbados) fought on the other
> side of the War of 1812 - and were United Empire Loyalists in the
> Revolutionary War!
>
> As for the cemeteries, perhaps we should think of a joint letter with all of
> our signatures on it to the family in question, or perhaps plant a story in
> the local newspaper. It might get things moving, and a proper burial site
> identified.
>
> Meanwhile, I am still trying to find how we all connect up - going beyond
> 1658 when my tree begins!
>
> Andrew Caddell
> Geneva
>
> At 09:00 AM 2/15/00 -0800, you wrote:
> >Daphne Kilbourn-Jacob wrote:
> >>
> >> Jim & Donna Nix wrote:
> >> >
> >> > Folks,
> >> >
> >> > It saddens me to think that fellow Alabamans would have done
something
> >> > like this. (Probably some o' them Dam Yankees that retired
here...)
> >> >
> >> > Of course, I can't help but wonder if these people ever saw the
movie
> >> > Poltergeist.
> >> >
> >> > Jim Nix
> >> Some of us "Dam Yankees" came from the NC Caudles, who were
brought
> >> up North by our parents for economic reasons. Some of us are
> >
> >> trying to get the money together to go back and find our ancestor's
> >> gravestones and official records. Vandalism of cemetaries and graves
> >> is a serious crime in CT, not just listed on the police blotter but
> >> also given an article in the news paper. When caught, these prep-
> >> ataters are almost always kids. Communities here are shocked by the
> >desecration of graves and attempts to alter the sites of cemetaries to
> >put in superhighways and malls, etc. are met by citizen action groups.
> >"Dam Yankees" revere their dead as well, and many New England towns
have
> >volunteer groups that go to historical cemetaries to repair and restore
> >gravestones which have deteriorated over the centuries.
> >
> > My ancestors fought and died in the
> >> VA and NC Militias in the War of 1812 and the Civil War, which I hope
> >> we are not going to reenact on this List.
> >> Daphne Jacob, nee Caudle
> >
Dear Andrew,
Thanks for your e-mail. I just get so hurt being stereotyped, should
be used it as my people in NC treat my father and the rest of the
family like we are freaks.
I like your idea of making an action plan. When a funeral costs so much
money, it is obvious that people expect to be able to honor their loved
ones for many years, if not centuries. Apart from personal feelings and
genealogical purposes, it is a universal human trait to mourn someone's
passing away and to celebrate the uniqueness of that person's life. Even
the cavemen had elaborate funerals!
Yes, if we wrote Letters to the Editors of our local papers pointing
this out and wondering if these vandals are acting less human than the
cavemen, they and their buddies would think twice before breaking
memorial markers. Maybe there could be a way for people who buy land
to demand that the town or county preserve a cemetary, even a small
family plot, instead of covering it up with tires, plastic and dirt (its
not my relative, I guess they must think). Pressure from voters can be a
powerful motivator to town and city officials, and to the ones who
make and enforce laws about this kind of behavior or neglect. Every
letter to a politician, or phone call, is figured to represent 2,000
people. We do have the power to change things. We could send in
suggestions for letters to the List, to cover various situations and
leave blanks to fill in the names. That would help
people who don't usually write to the papers or politicions. We could
even have spaces for other people to sign the letters, like a petition,
as you suggested.
We could have different letters for different types of local goverments,
like Sheriffs, Mayors, Selectmen or whatever, even the local newspaper
editor. I agree that this will get some kind of action going. People
could even print out whatever type of letter best suits them, sign it,
and send it in. Or hand copy it so they know we took the time to write.
I'd be willing to write one for the List, if people wanted this.
I wish I knew how we connected, also. The names CADDELL and variants,
Cadel, Cordel, Caudel, etc. have been changed by official mispellings
so many times that it's hard to untangle. My older brother told me that
every once in awhile, one of our ancestors came down from the hills to
try to straighten it out, with no luck. Even the Army lists the name
Cauble sometimes and Caudle at others. I do strongly believe the con-
nection exists or I wouldn't be on this list.
Regards,
Daphne Jacob, nee Caudle